Happy mid-Spring! I like to use this time to take a look at the goals and desires that I set out to accomplish for myself and my life at the beginning of the year and check my progress. In the midst of all the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to get sidetracked and distracted. But let me let you in on a little secret: taking some time out to remind yourself of your bigger goals and dreams is really very important to stay on task! It’s like revving your creative engine. When we make sure to do this on a regular basis, it’s easier to get back into action and become a proactive force in our lives again.
If you’ve been feeling a tad uninspired or unmotivated, take these steps to give yourself a kick in the tush and get some traction under those wheels:
1. Be honest with yourself. Okay, so your bank account isn’t what you wanted it to be or you haven’t been as committed as you would have liked at the gym. No use in denying it; after all, what we resist persists. And honestly, who are you kidding anyway? You were there! You know what’s been going on! Or more likely, what hasn’t. (No judgement, we’ve all been there!) Being honest with yourself about where you are in regards to the fulfillment of those goals is the first step in reclaiming your power and getting back on track.
2. Acknowledge yourself. Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back for everything that you HAVE accomplished. It’s like they say… Any progress, even the tiniest bit, is still progress. Baby steps are still steps in the right direction. Now is not the time to dwell on your mistakes- it discourages any further actions. Don’t discount or downplay any steps that you have already taken, no matter how small. Acknowledge your breakthroughs!
3. Take time to reflect. What isn’t working for you? Where have you been having breakdowns? Are you being unrealistic about a certain goal? Are you over-extending yourself? Where have you not been showing up/procrastinating/being downright lazy? Are you blaming anyone? If so, where can you take responsibility about how things have turned out? By asking yourself these questions, you can pinpoint what threw you off track and avoid further derailment.
4. Practice the F word. Forgiveness! (Get your mind out of the gutter.) Step number 3 and the realizations it brings aren’t about declaring yourself as right or wrong, they’re about getting present to your habits and ways of being. Now, if you were making yourself or others wrong, it’s time to forgive and move on. Again, dwelling on mistakes- both yours and the ones others have made- will be the complete opposite to progress!
6. Inspire yourself. Did you ever consider that maybe the language you used in creating your original goal isn’t inspiring enough? Perhaps “Speak up more in meetings” isn’t as uplifting as “Channel my inner Tony Robbins and kick some booty in my meetings.” Use language that gets you feeling pumped for the achievement ahead! If your goal isn’t making you feel passionate or inspired, you have higher chances of falling off the bandwagon and not completing it. So kick it up a notch!
7. Break it down. Okay, so you have a newly-phrased goal set that’s really got you jazzed. Greeeeeaaaatttt. Now it’s time to write down actions you will take in fulfilling your goal. This is like a to-do list of mini-goals that will all add up to the achievement of your overarching goal. Unless there are practical, achievable actions you can take, a goal is only conceptual, so get out there and start doing!
8. Get support. “We get by with a little help from our friends.” Even if the goal you’re trying to complete is a personal goal, it always helps if you have someone holding you accountable! Share your goals and desires with someone you know is not going to tolerate your excuses and stories. Someone who will call you out on your BS and remind you of your commitment to doing what you said you were going to do (but Dina, it’s raining and I don’t like working out when it’s raining… Not gonna cut it! Yeah, I know all of the little tricks up your sleeve!)
These people are our shining beacons of sanity in the quest to complete a goal. Sure, it may sting a bit when they kick our butts into gear but in the end, you will thank them for it, I promise.
Bonus points: Find a friend that has their own pesky goal to complete to be your supporter and return the favor!
Remember: Goal setting should be fun. You are putting into existence the way you want your life to turn out. Sure, it can feel like a chore to keep up with those resolutions we all swore we’d finally stick to, but it’s like they say: Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy. You get out what you put into it, in life and all endeavors, so why not give it your all? Make the most of it! And always, always stay positive!